Marriage is a beautiful association of two individuals, who have vowed their lives to each other. It is a social system where the individuals make a family and the society prospers. But marriage is hard work too; not always does the charm and fun factor of the conjugation remain the same, and with time, the partners become idle and complacent in treating each other. The togetherness becomes a routine, and it can cause problems if not addressed in time. Don’t let your marriage become boring – try some tips to get the spark back into the marriage!
Go for dates
So what, if you have been married for fifteen years and have teenage children at home studying for exams – You can still have your personal time off the mundane and boring tasks of daily life and have eyes for only each other. Take at least one day off in a fortnight and dress up for each other, have a great unwinding time at a good restaurant or pub. You definitely deserve it, and your marriage does too. It will feel like the old times when there were no kids and world was tinted rose!
Gift each other creative gifts which are meaningful in some way, instead of the damage control expensive ones you have gotten yourself into a habit of buying, because you forgot a special day. Get her a nice fruit gift basket, so that she can eat herself healthy. Gift him that adventure trek trip he has been thinking about, so that he can work out for a fitter body. Gifts say you care, gifts say you remember, gifts say you would like the other person to have the things they love – gift giving is the synonym of delight! There are gifts you can enjoy together, like travel. Go for a nice one which warms hearts and lights up the spark again.
No technology days
Have a special day in a week – where both of you will not be checking your phones and logging on to the internet. Save that day for each other only. Talk, share, do activities like laundry and cleaning together. Supposedly bland and everyday chores can be surprisingly effective in inducing a sense of shared responsibility in you as a couple and your team work can bring you much closer than you expect. Many a spouse complains about their partners paying more attention to their phones or laptops and this creates marital discord. Don’t overdo it.
You need to look attractive in order to stay attracted to each other. Shallow it may sound, but physical attraction goes a long way in keeping the fun alive in a marriage. Don’t starve but be fit. Stay clean and organized. Smell nice. Work on yourself before you try to work on the partner. Complaining about not getting enough attention is not enough; you need to earn it too.
The bottom line is, you have to keep working on yourself and your partnership to keep it fresh and lively, else it becomes stagnant and everyone is unhappy. Don’t let your pious bond get redundant.